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R/N:
At dahil MAGANDA ako, seryoso 'to. Ita-try ko talagang mag-seryoso dito.
End of R/N

"DON'T JUDGE my choices WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING my reasons."

Life's full of choices. It's your choice to study or not, to go here or there, to go to school or just be absent. It's also your choice if you still want to continue living. These are just some sample situations of choosing. Without choosing between things, you wouldn't be who you are right now; you wouldn't be where you are right now; you wouldn't be doing what you're doing right now. We also choose without us noticing it. It's our choice if we want something to be placed in a specific spot. It's a choice if we want to watch this show instead of the other shows. It's our choice if we want to voice out what's in our mind or to just keep quiet. Pero minsan, sa pamimili natin, hindi maiwasang may mag-comment, may matuwa, at may masaktan.

Ganyan talaga. I mean, it's inevitable na may maapektuhan sa bawat pagpili natin. Like in love. Kung saksakan ka ng GANDA at marami kang manliligaw, hindi pwedeng mag-yes ka sa kanilang lahat. Isa lang ang pwedeng maging boyfriend mo. Syempre, lahat ng manliligaw mo ay ginagawa ang best nila para sayo. At syempre, bawat isa sa kanila aasang piliin mo. And as you choose the person that really stood out for you, masasaktan yung iba mo pang manliligaw kasi hindi sila napili. Pero, kailangan nilang magmove-on. Isa pang example ay kapag kaka-break nyo lang ng jowa mo. Syempre masakit, lalo na kung mahal mo talaga tapos nakipag-break sya. Oh, saklap diba? Laslas na friends. Kapag nasasaktan ka, iiyak ka. Naniniwala kasi ako na "Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice". So kapag nasaktan ka, umiyak ka, pero depende na sayo kung maglulupasay ka, hindi kakain for weeks, magkukulong sa kwarto for weeks. Sarili mo lang rin ang pinahirapan mo. Sa tingin mo ba, babalikan ka nya pag ginawa mo yan? Siguro nga babalikan ka nya...yung nga lang, dahil sa awa, siguro lang din naman. Pag nag-break kayo...move-on. Oo, mahirap. Pero kailangan. The sooner, the better. Magpaganda ka, magpakasaya. Ipakita mo sa kanya na, "Ikaw ang nakipag-break, ikaw ang nawalan. Hindi ako." Pero, depende pa rin sayo kung anong gagawin mo. Either be wasted or be stronger and better. Choice mong magpakatatag, reason mo is, pahihirapan mo lang sarili mo kung hindi.

Another example is fangirling/fanboying. Hindi maiiwasan (lalo na nowadays) ang bumilib sa mga artista. Minsan, sa loveteams, magtabi lang sila or mag-usap, kilig na kilig ka na. Minsan, sa sobrang gwapo nung singer/actor, titili ka na. At sa sobrang bilib mo sa kanila, gagawa ka ng accounts with their names, o kaya ii-stalk mo ng paulit-ulit yung account nila. Minsan nga, alam mo na yung talambuhay nila eh. Fangirling or fanboying is also a choice. Choice mo na kung magpapakabaliw ka sa kanila or hindi. Choice mo rin kung kanino ka magpapaka-fan. Reason? Kasi cute sila together. Kasi gwapo/maganda sya. Kasi magaling at idol mo sya/sila. Kasi trip mo lang. Higit sa lahat, kasi napapasaya ka nila/niya. Syempre, you'll be a fan of someone who you really think is good. Hindi ka naman siguro magfa-fangirl sa mga puchu-puchu diba? And often, kung may fans, may haters. Haters hindi lang nung artista kundi pati nung mga fans. Why do they hate? 'Cause they don't understand what the fans understand. They don't see what the fans see over a particular person or couple or loveteam. They bash the fans 'cause they don't see the reason why the fans love the person so much. At dahil naba-bash sila, the fans also bash the haters because they don't see the reason why haters hate. Simple as that. Just because of a showbiz personality, people fight (fans vs. haters). Also, it's a hater's choice kung sino iba-bash nya, or kung mangba-bash ba sya.

Another crazy example. In a wedding, you suddenly run from the altar to outside the church to a far place. Of course, everyone will be shocked especially your family, the groom, and his family. Magagalit sila sayo, or at least some only. Bakit sila nagagalit? 'Cause they don't understand why you chose to run away rather than continue the wedding. Siguro nga alam nila, kasi nasabi mo na sa kanila after you ran away, but knowing is different from understanding. Maybe they don't know the explanation yet. Na kaya mo lang yun ginawa is because ayaw mo ng lokohin yung sarili mo na kaya mo syang pakasalan at ayaw mo syang masaktan that's why you chose to run away. Nasa sayo na kung makikipagbalikan ka kay guy or not anymore.

Example for students are exams. Especially the Multiple Choice and True or False. We choose a particular answer because that's what we think is right. Pero minsan, kapag hindi alam at talagang hindi maalala yung ni-review, "Guessing power!" (Uy. Relate yung iba dyan)

Another example is choosing between the right and the wrong. This situation is common. Kaso, napakahirap. Kahit na sobrang ayaw mong magkasala, we sometimes tend to choose the wrong one. Hindi yan maiiwasan kasi hindi naman tayo santo eh. And we're only humans (and I bleed when I fall down. Charot.). We choose the wrong one over the right one dahil pakiramdam natin na yun yung tama in that moment. Pakiramdam natin na kahit mali yun, yun ang kailangan mong gawin. And when we choose the wrong thing, may maaapektuhan. May magagalit. At late mo ng mare-realize na mali yung ginawa mo. At sana hindi mo nalang ginawa.

Hindi sa lahat ng panahon, tama yung choice natin. Kahit valid man yang reason mo, minsan, mama-mali't mama-mali ka talaga. Don't judge my choices without understanding my reasons. Kaso minsan, hindi natin nae-explain sa iba yung reason natin, kaya hindi nila maiintindihan. Kasi natatakot tayo na baka pag nalaman nila yung reason, they might just say that it's lame. Atsaka, pipiliin lang naman natin ang isang bagay if we think that it's the right thing to do. Mali man sa mga mata ng iba, yun yung tama para sa'tin eh. It's our choice if we do the right thing for them, or the one that's right for us. You won't just choose something dahil trip mo lang. Oo, minsan ganun, pero madalas, may mas malalim na dahilan. Yung nga lang, minsan, kahit sarili natin, hindi natin maintindihan ang reason kung bakit yun yung choice natin. Kaya mapapa-facepalm ka nalang at mapapasabi ng "Ay, tanga!".

R/N:
There, Myra (if ever you'll be reading this). A serious one. Keri na yan. Nahahaggard na ang KAGANDAHAN ko. Vavush!

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